Anyone else really going through it right now? The kicking, screaming, yelling, throwing and sass? ME TOO sista so don't worry it's not just your child. I can't even help but laugh sometimes because she is literally a spitting image of me from the looks down to her attitude.
Camille is my sweetheart child, she is so loving and caring with everyone but she is also extremely strong willed. Buttons? What are those? Pressed everyday.
Public
Toddlers: The face of a baby, the attitude of a teenager.
Right now we're struggling going in public, because this is where she fights for everyone's attention. A quick trip to the grocery store? Nope. It ends with my toddler grabbing every candy bar at checkout and trying to sneak it out, followed by a tantrum because I wouldn't buy any. She wins with me bribing her with a cake pop from Starbucks if she listens and doesn't cry. Still trying to find some sort of a system to make the trips easier but I am stumped. I look like that crazy mom who doesn't have their kids under control.
One thing we've been doing lately to get better at listening in public, is visiting a new park. So far it's been going pretty well, I'll reward Camille with going to the park when she's finished eating all of her food and picks up her toys. It's also a little self care for me to get out of the house and enjoy these last sunny days of summer. Camille has literally no fear which makes it difficult not knowing what her next move will be, but now we've established boundaries on where she can and can't go and that she needs to be where I can see her. When she was younger she would just take off with no care so I was terrified for a while not knowing if she would be like that as I'm handling McKenzie. She's so sweet and talkative to all the other kids making friends every time so I'm glad we're also tackling some social skills too.
Comfort
For the first 2 years of Camille's life, we had a teacher come over to the house to help out and also give me tips. Right before I had McKenzie I was drained and felt defeated and asked her what I'm doing wrong, and why she only acts up with me. I'd come home from work and the nanny would tell me how she was great all day until I got there, like WHY me. How is it that she's such an angel for everyone who watches her? Her teacher then reassured me that it is completely normal for kids to act out more with their mothers because they are most comfortable with you. They know you the best. Versus someone new, they don't know how that person will react like they do you. That was a big relief that I didn't have a wild out of control child and that her behavior is normal.
Basically, this age is tough. There's no real right or wrong way to deal with things because every child is different. I can't exactly tell you what will or will not work but I can tell you it gets easier and you just have to push through it in the meantime. Parenting is hard, especially when its 1 parent vs. 2 kids. Any advice I'd love to hear! Seriously, I will try anything to lessen these tantrums when she's told "no."
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